God did not choose me because of who I am, but in spite of who I am.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is perfected in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
Heritage
The way you view the past greatly influences your current situation. It can be quite challenging to overcome deeply ingrained habits that have been passed down through generations. In my family, our history is characterized by hardships and difficulties. Nevertheless, through the grace of God, I have been able to heal and gain valuable insights from my personal experiences.
Standing on the Truth
A generational curse refers to the transmission of habits or behaviors from one generation to the next. Nevertheless, by seeking guidance from God, we possess the ability to break these patterns and prevent our past from exerting control over our lives.
The Written Word of God holds immense power as a tool. Guided by the Holy Spirit, it possesses the ability to mend your inner being, regardless of how shattered you may feel. God yearns to guide you towards the path of restoration.
"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God." (Romans 12:2)
Choose
I used to have an inner voice that said, “You are nothing, you come from nothing and you will never be anything of value.” I had to learn to choose the truth of God’s word over the voice in my head. The choice is yours. When your inner man or outer circumstances tell you have no value, choose to replace that broken thought with the truth found in Scripture.
Old Mind: You are alone.
“I will pray to the Father, and he will give you another Counselor, that he may be with you forever: the Spirit of truth, whom the world can’t receive; for it doesn’t see him, neither knows him. You know him, for he lives with you, and will be in you. I will not leave you orphans. I will come to you.” (Joh 14:16-18 WEB)
New Mind: The Holy Spirit lives inside of me, I am never alone.
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Old Mind: You are unloved.
“But God commends his own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Rom 5:8 WEB)
New Mind: My Father loves me so much He sent Jesus to pay the price for my full restoration.
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Old Mind: You are your past.
“Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new.” (2Co 5:17 WEB)
New Mind: I am a new child in Gods’ Family.
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Old Mind: You are orphaned.
“See how great a love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God! For this cause the world doesn’t know us, because it didn’t know him.” (1Jn 3:1 WEB)
New Mind: I have been adopted by God, I now have a new Father and family.
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Music For
Broken Generations - Navigating a Dark Past with Jesus
Perspective
The way we view the world greatly depends on our development as children. If you were brought up in a loving environment, you tend to have a positive outlook. On the other hand, the more harmful your environment as a child, the more dangerous and untrustworthy the world becomes. My outlook as a young adult was extraordinarily cautious and untrusting. My distrust was so extreme that I didn’t even trust myself. I knew logically that hating yourself was not a healthy frame of mind, yet it was mine. I am unsure when I accepted this self-loathing attitude, but I know when I became aware of it. It was when I saw the scripture that you should love God wholeheartedly and others as you love yourself. I have to make it clear that it was the Holy Spirit living within me that brought this to my attention. I had an on-and-off relationship with God from my youth. I would defend God when others said He wasn’t real, and then I would say, but I don’t serve Him. For the majority of my young life, I felt incapable of serving God; I had placed a qualifier in my mind of what a Christian was, and I didn’t measure up. It wasn’t until He called me at the age of twenty-four that I accepted the title of Christian. The first few years of claiming the title were challenging. I was broken internally, and it would take time for God to heal my inner man. The deception that ruled my life was generational and vast. My grandparents, my mother, and now I were all brokenhearted people just trying to survive in a world we did not trust. I even had doubts about God, and when I read the Holy Bible, my understanding of scripture was clouded by my broken mindset.
Adult Life
I am a Christian, as well as a wife, mother, and grandmother. Out of all my relationships, the one that has truly shaped me and impacted my capacity to connect with others is my personal journey with God. Similar to many individuals who have faced challenging childhoods, I initially found it challenging to establish a strong connection with God. It felt as though everything He tried to instill in me would simply seep out through the numerous cracks in my foundation.
“Think about the circumstances of your call, brothers and sisters. Not many were wise by human standards, not many were powerful, not many were born to a privileged position. But God chose what the world thinks foolish to shame the wise, and God chose what the world thinks weak to shame the strong. God chose what is low and despised in the world, what is regarded as nothing, to set aside what is regarded as something, so that no one can boast in his presence.” (1Cor 1:26-29)
“For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” (Romans 8:15)
Have Questions?
Frequently Asked
Questions
Why do I keep making the same mistakes?
All Christians have flaws. You’re not alone. Many Christians pretend to be someone they’re not to avoid being seen as unrepentant. I hope that all of God’s children will learn to be honest and humble. Let’s show mercy and understanding to each other and allow the Holy Spirit to bring true healing to our souls. I’ve learned that the flaws we and others see might not be the main issue God is addressing right now. Each of us is unique, and only God knows what we truly need. I think of myself as a cluttered house, with God guiding me in every aspect of my life. He helps me distinguish between what’s good and what’s harmful. He then fills that cleaned area with truth from His word, making it hard for the enemy to mislead me. When the Holy Spirit addresses an issue in your life, He’ll give you the strength to overcome it. He’ll let you know when you’re about to make a choice against God’s will and give you a chance to change. But the enemy will try to distract you by pointing out other issues or presenting uncontrollable situations. Our healing comes from following God’s guidance and His plan for us. In the beginning, I wanted to hold up a sign that said “saved by grace.” The issues God addressed first within me were not the obvious issues others pointed out in my unpolished shell. They were issues of the heart, manipulation, fear, shame, guilt, rejection, and feelings of unworthiness. So listen to God, your shell will line up in His time.
“But the Lord said to Samuel, Do not take note of his face or how tall he is, because I will not have him: for the Lord’s view is not man’s; man takes note of the outer form, but the Lord sees the heart.” (1Sa 16:7 BBE)
Why don’t I feel God when I pray?
God always listens to our prayers, even though we may not always be able to hear His response. I have personally experienced God’s supernatural communication only once. Other times, I have received my answers through careful observations and a gentle, quiet inner voice. In the past, I used to ask God seemingly straightforward questions, only to realize that the answers came in the form of a conversation that required time to receive and comprehend.
"Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is Eternal."2 Corinthians 4:16-18 (NIV)
Those who were not my people I will call my people, and her who was not beloved I will call beloved. And in the very place where it was said to them, You are not my people, there they will be called ‘sons of the living God. Romans 9:25-26